Free Write for Video Final

Word Count: 940

For my blog post, I am going to free write about several different topics surrounding love and relationships.

First, I want to begin by talking about this “crazy ex” label that we so freely give to people – women specifically. What makes a crazy person, anyway? Why do we only label women as crazy, and rarely label men the same? Why do we never talk about the actions and aspects around the craziness? These are the types of questions I ask myself all the time when my peers and associates are oh so quick to call or deem someone crazy.

When I think of “crazy,” I think of two scenarios… I either think about those who are (harshly) referred to such due to mental illness or I think about women burning up their ex’s cars or clothes. As much as I pride myself on being a feminist, a man is not the first thing that comes to mind when I think about “crazy.” DON’T GET ME WRONG THOUGH, I am quick to call a man crazy when he is being crazy.

The next thing I want to talk about for my free writing is talking about the “perfect” mate, and the qualities that he or she would have in order for me specifically to consider them perfect. Take everything I say with a grain of salt because I am extremely picky lol.

My perfect mate could be either a woman or a man, because I am bisexual. The lists I would make for each would be different so for the sake of argument, let’s say we are talking about the perfect boyfriend.. For starters, my perfect boyfriend would be someone who is patient and understanding. I find that I am a complicated human being, and that nothing in a relationship can work unless my significant other is capable of stopping to listen and empathize. In addition to that, I would need for my lover boy to be extremely loyal, honest, and respectful – these are the top three traits for me in any relationship or friendship that I have. Other than that, I would need for him to be ambitious and OPEN minded; I hate when people are not willing to think outside of the box or dive into other ways of expression or living. My ideal, perfect mate would be creative (because I am not), caring, and extremely intelligent; intelligence is extremely attractive. I would need for my significant other to be able to handle my attitude too though; he can’t be a push over. Ideally, I would want someone who stands up for themselves and knows I am a lot to handle, but treats me like a princess anyway. Similar to how I would want him to be incredibly intelligent, I would want him to think independently and not fall into what society says or thinks. He has to be a feminist, and he has to support and understand the premise of the Black Lives Matter movement. I would like for him to be tall (mainly so that he can reach the things on the top shelf that I can never seem to reach without a chair), with a nice white smile. He would definitely have to edgy and like going out and exploring because I like adventure. But, he would also need to be able to just stay home some nights and chill. Essentially, I want this person to be my best friend and we need to have a mutually beneficial relationship. He would have to be able to motivate me an encourage me to be my best self (even if not verbally), and vice versa. We would push each other to challenge our beliefs and thoughts, while maintaining a fun relationship with an incomparable bond. Lastly, I get bored easily, so we can’t fall into routine.

Honestly, I can go on forever about what I would like in my ideal person. It’s to the point where I have accepted my loveless fate, and have decided to be the best single Aunt ever haha.. but that’s neither here nor there. Next, I want to talk about some of the things that would make me crazy in a relationship – which I can also talk about for forever.

In a relationship, several things can drive me crazy, but let’s start with pet peeves. My biggest pet peeve of all time (both inside and outside of romantic relationships) is LYING!!!!!! 

How I feel when people lie...

I hate lying. I barely even tolerate “little white lies.” I feel like as an adult, you should be able to stand by your truth and own up to your stuff. It makes me think so little of someone when they lie – whether it is to me or otherwise. Not to mention, any chances of me trusting your definitely go out the window if I ever catch you in a lie – even if the lie is small. If you feel the need to lie about the little stuff, who knows what you will do when the situation is more serious?!

Another huge pet peeve of mine is when people don’t answer my questions or when they ignore me. I HATE WHEN PEOPLE DO THESE THINGS! If I ask you something, I am not doing it for my own good.. I want to know whatever I am asking. So answer – it is truly that simple. However, people still find ways to not answer my question and it makes me a bit irrational. The same goes for being ignored; I do not handle that well.

I’ll stop there… but just know that we can all be that “crazy” ex in one way or another.